Remember When You Were Young And Carefree?
I have just turned 31 and it feels like an eternity since those days where I did not have a care in the world. All I needed to worry about back then was to do my chores, make sure that I did my homework and that I studied hard.
I remember how my grandfather would often tell me that if he could, he would gladly go back to the days when he was in school. He told me to not be in such a rush to leave school. Of course, I thought he was a bit crazy to say that, as I hated school greatly, but now I see exactly what he meant.
Obviously, growing up, becoming an adult means that you now have a far greater responsibility than when you were a kid and teenager e.g. you now have bills to pay, bosses to please, a family of your own to provide for, and the list goes on and on. But, I think one of the saddest parts about getting older is the tendency to let go of your childhood dreams, and even to stop dreaming altogether. This is a tragedy! And the question arises; Why do we stop dreaming? What happens when we get older that causes us to become so serious without any dreams that we held to so dearly when we were younger?
The question arises; Why do we stop dreaming of great things?
Here are some important questions for you:
- What were your dreams growing up?
- Do you still have those dreams?
- If not, what caused you to stop dreaming those dreams?
- Are you happy not having those dreams?
- Are you happy with your life as it is now?
- If not, what are you going to do about it?
I do not know what your dreams were, but I am certain that they were awesome!
My experience tells me that the main reason why you stopped dreaming those dreams was due to fear.
When you were young and carefree, you did not understand the idea of risk. Your parents did basically everything for you. You most likely never had to make any financial decisions that could cost you so much money that you would go into debt because of it. Your parents had to bear that burden. One of the great reasons why we truly need to honour our parents.
But now you are an adult and you do have all these other responsibilities that you parents had, therefore following any dreams presents an element of high risk. And for most people, especially those with families, the risk is unacceptable. As a result, you let go of those dreams. The easiest thing to do is to forget about those dreams, rather than continually think about them and become resentful because of them.
Without Any Dreams Do You Have A Sense Of Purpose? What are you looking forward to in life?
I know this from personal experience that when you don’t have a dream, you tend to lose hope and a sense of purpose.
I would like to encourage you to start dreaming again. It doesn’t have to be the same dream / s as you had in the past, but you need to start dreaming again.
Obviously, you need to have realistic dreams, for unrealistic dreams will just waste your and your loved one’s time and it will only bring you great frustration.
Dream dreams, that you can be excited about, because you believe they can be fulfilled.
Realistic vs Unrealistic Dreams
Here are some tips to make sure that your dreams are realistic:
- Will achieving this dream, enhance your AND your family’s life?
- Do your loved ones back you with this dream?
- Will the sacrifices required to achieve this dream be worthwhile to not only you, but also your loved ones?
- If following this dream results in failure, will your life be worse off or better off than it was before you started pursuing the dream?
- Your dream must not put you into debt, if at all possible unless you will get a return on investment.
Examples of realistic dreams:
- Working from home full – time (Learn how to do this in my Get Started page)
- Getting your pilot’s licence
- Owning your own home
- Owning your own business
- Climbing the highest mountain peaks in the world
Examples of unrealistic dreams (but not impossible):
- Becoming an astronaut
- Becoming the president of your country
- Becoming a major champion in whatever sport you are passionate about
- Meeting Elvis Presley in person 🙂
- Getting Super Powers
Make A List Of Your Dreams
What my wife and I did a few years back, was write down a list of our dreams and goals and then we prioritised them according to their importance and whether they were realistic or not. This gave a great picture of what we should be working towards.
I suggest doing the same; write down any dream that comes to mind on a piece of paper and don’t worry about whether they are crazy or not…yet.
Once you have written down a list of all those dreams, crazy and not – crazy, prioritize them according to their importance and whether they are realistic or not.
Then once you have a list of dreams, you must then sit down (or lie down, whatever you prefer 🙂 ) and work out an action plan on how to achieve those dreams, and be willing to dedicate yourself to seeing those dreams fulfilled. The worst thing that you can do is semi – commit to it, because you will fail if you do this.
Remember that anything worth doing takes a lot of hard work and much dedication to do.
What Is The Bottom Line?
If you really want to do something, then if you put your mind to it, it will happen. Just remember to always put your family and loved ones before going after your dreams. If your family suffers because of your dream it will never be worth it, even if you achieve it.
If your family is happy, then GO FOR IT! You can do it because you are awesome!
That’s it for now, but please let me know if you have any questions or even if you want to find out what my dreams are. Just send me a message or leave a comment below.
Ciao for now.